BE YOUR OWN VALENTINE unconditional self love

Dear Readers,

This blog post is dedicated to SELF-LOVE, unapologetic & fierce love for self.

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Self-love however is so much more than just loving yourself. If you disintegrate it, understand the various factors that shape & form this virtue called “self-love”, you’ll realize how profound & IMPORTANT it is for you to love yourself immensely & intensely.

Self-love & Self-acceptance

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Self-love as a virtue can only be mastered AFTER you have MASTERED the virtue of self-acceptance. By self-acceptance, I mean accepting yourself for all the so-called flaws you have; accepting your strengths & weaknesses alike. I have seen so many women being so critical of themselves. No matter how healthy their skin is, they are just not satisfied; they always find another woman whose skin would be clearer and end up comparing.

Comparison is the lowest depth of misery.

The moment you stop comparing yourself with those around you, you’ll realise how complete, whole & divine you are. The biggest step to self-acceptance is erasing the idea of ‘comparison’ from your dictionary & your attitude. Only then can you practice the art of accepting yourself.

And once you’ve accepted yourself unconditionally, you will start falling in love with yourself truly, madly, deeply.

Food for thought

Think of 2 people you love the most- could be your partner/parent(s)/child/best friend.





Now, do they have even a single weakness or limitation or a habit that you may not approve of?

I’m sure there would be a couple of teeny things here & there that you don’t like about them but WHO CARES?


This means that your love for them is unconditional.

Why can’t you apply this on self?

Love yourself unconditionally despite the flaws/limitations. Wear them all like a badge of honor and SEE THE MAGIC IN THAT.

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Judgement detox & criticism

Every time you judge someone else, you are REVEALING an unhealed part of yourself. Anything you see in someone else that triggers you, you need to work on yourself. The whole idea behind our soul taking form in this human life IS to learn how to love & accept self & others unconditionally. There’s really no such thing as right or wrong ‘cos its all about PERCEPTION. And, PERCEPTION is PROJECTION. What you see in others is just the reflection of yourself.

If you only see the positive in others, it’s actually a reflection of your positivity in them. 🙂

If you see a negative quality in someone else, it’s your negative quality that is being projected back to you through that so-called negative person.

Learn to see good in every single person, step into their shoes and think…

How would I react if I were in his/her shoes given the emotional condition he/she has been brought up with???

We all are on different journeys here so our paths are different & unique.

Appreciation for self

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Once you get out of the rut of being critical towards self & others, you will realize how easy it is for you to accept yourself & others around you.

Once you learn to accept yourself unconditionally, you start loving yourself unconditionally.

This love for self must be expressed through appreciation.

Anything you’d want your partner or loved ones to do for you, you do it for yourself.

Food for thought

In my early twenties, I was a hopeless romantic and often found day dreaming about R (who was nowhere to be found). I always wanted to have someone in my life who’d spoil me rotten with flowers and some day propose me with a diamond ring. I am glad it took a long while for R to show up in my reality because I not just became financially independent but also started buying a big bunch of flowers for myself every weekend and ended up saving and got myself a diamond ring.

YES, my very first diamond ring was a gift I gave myself thinking…

Why should I wait for a guy to buy me a diamond ring? I am independent enough to get it myself! 🙂

I still wear that gorgeous ring like a badge of honor.

Energy Vampires

“Pay attention to whom your energy increases & decreases around, because that’s the Universe giving you a hint who you should embrace or stray away from.” This is the strongest advice you can accept in your reality & follow it to the T. There will be people around you who will always look for flaws in you and criticize you & your intentions, stay the F away from them. They will suck the positivity out of you and deserve to stay further away from you.

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Protecting your aura

It’s very very important for you to protect your space, your sacred auric field by surrounding yourself with your well wishers and constantly staying in the zone of gratitude. It’s the highest energy frequency you can tap into and flourish in, really. The more grateful you are, higher will the frequency of your auric field and easier it will be for you to not have & repel negative nancies around. 😉

Power of Healing

Sometimes, being unable to love & accept various parts about self gets really tough and the reason behind that could be mental conditioning while growing up or a childhood episode that might have humiliated you and made you question the way you look & feel about yourself. These issues are highly sensitive and need to be dealt with utmost compassion. Here is where healing comes to rescue.

We all have been through episodes of self-doubt, self-criticism & self-loathing but if this has become a pattern in your life, it’s high time you release this & seek healing to do away with all the aforementioned feelings.

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Magic of Coaching

Coaching works beautifully if you often catch yourself really wanting to practice self-love. A Coach helps you recognize & separate your weapons from your wounds so that you tap onto the wisdom of your authentic self. A Coach helps you recognize where you truly wish to move in life, set goals and pursue virtues that will support your journey.

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If you are seeking guidance in order to be more in tune with yourself, love & accept yourself for who you are whilst improving your thought process to a much positive & uplifting frequency, then feel free to contact me immediately. Together, as a team, we can do wonders!

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Love & Gratitude,


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21 Comments Add yours

  1. Yamini says:

    This is one of the most inspiring posts.. Its such an important post that one must bookmark it and read it for revision every once in a while.

    Thanks for posting this.. Ive saved a few screenshots and i will be coming back to this more often than not..

    1. Aakansha says:

      Oh my dear Yamini, you are such an angel! Thanks a lot for your unconditional love & support.

  2. Shivani Shahu says:

    Aaah! Feels so good. 💁🏻‍♀️
    Such positive and constructive blogs make my heart Smile. 😇
    Thankyou for sharing.
    XXOO ♥️

    1. Aakansha says:

      Thanks Shivani for always showing up here in the comments section and leaving your fairy dust-like positivity & support.
      -(big bigg biggg hug)-

  3. Jahnvi Joshi says:

    This was amazing and so inspiring . In the world filled with judgmental people thanks for being someone who teaches the importance of self loving . This really made my day <3

    1. Aakansha says:

      Oh my cutie Jahnvi- so happy to catch you here in the comments section of The Maven Lifestyle blog!
      I feel privileged to have inspired you and added value to your life.
      -(big hug)-

  4. Sumitha says:

    Really Outstanding words.Feels like this article is for me.Lot of tips to follow. Thank u beautiful !

    Love &Hugs

    1. Aakansha says:

      Oh my dear Sumi, thanks a lot for your candid comment. You have no idea how happy I am to be of service to you in every which way.

  5. shikha says:

    Woww !❤ this is another great post by you Aakansha .. I think I am gonna Re-read it ..
    this one’s my fav just like you are 😘
    keep spreading
    your positivity
    Positive soul ❤ xoxo

    1. Aakansha says:

      Thanks Shikha; your positivity, love & support makes me want to write more & do better with every passing day!
      Your regular comments on every blog post of mine has now made me seriously rely quite a lot on your word & feedback.
      -(giant fuzzy hug)-

  6. Anchal Shahu says:

    This was a much needed blog post! Thanks much for this post Aakansha di♥️💫. After going through this blog of ‘self love’ I could relate some things of yours with mine & found the solution for the same. Thank you for inspiring & making me ‘love myself more’.
    Warm🤗 n much love ♥️✨

    1. Aakansha says:

      Thank you so much Anchal. I am glad this blog post made you fall in love with yourself more than ever! Your comment brought a huge smile on my face!
      -(tight hug)-

  7. Surabhi says:

    It is clearly visible that you have made it your life’s goal to spread positivity come what may. Your energy inspires me Aakanksha. May the Universe showers all the shine, energy and blessings on you. The world need souls like you.

    Much Love to you

    1. Aakansha says:

      Oh Surabhi, you have no idea how much your comment changed my state within seconds. Thanks a lot for your kind words my love, thanks A LOT!

  8. Shivam Sharma says:

    So much positivity😊💞🦄 ..

    1. Aakansha says:

      Thank you Shivam. Really happy to see your comment.

  9. Aakansha Gurnani says:

    Self love is so so important and something I constantly give myself and those around me a reminder of! Truly no better love than self love and acceptance. This is put together so beautifully❤️

    1. Aakansha says:

      I am ecstatic to see your comment here, thank you my love.


    I REALLY LIKE THIS SENTENCE ” Self-love as a virtue can only be mastered AFTER you have MASTERED the virtue of self-acceptance.”

    1. Aakansha says:

      Fantastic baby!

  11. Shikha says:

    So well written and beautifully explained ..
    I’m gonna keep this topic forever with me …Thanks A
    u r the bestest
    warm hugss ❤😘

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