9 Months Down || Mother Lode Questions || Celebrations & More

My beloved readers, it’s been a while since I have spoken to y’all directly, right???

Well, this week is going to be special as I will delve into two of the coolest blog posts of The Maven Lifestyle; so stay tuned! *wink*

This one is from a beautiful experience I shared with the husband a few weeks ago when we were out for a dinner date to celebrate our 9 month wedding anniversary.

{No, we don’t celebrate monthly anniversaries but we do plan our lunches/dinners around a milestone!}

Communication & Expression

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I believe that the key to a happy relationship is open & mindful dialogue. We often hold a bunch of expectations from our partner not realizing how unrealistic and random they could be ‘for them’! Please know that things that are ‘normal’ and ‘obvious’ to you may not be to them! This is the reason a couple has to effectively communicate. Pent up feelings result in agitation & anger which is a downward spiral for a relationship!

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Appreciation is key!

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It’s imperative for us to appreciate our partner for all the lovely things he/she is doing for us no matter how teeny those steps are! The idea is behold an attitude of gratitude!

It goes without saying that we openly talk about situations that have upset us too because ‘relationship’ is synonymous with ‘mutual growth’ which would be impossible if we aren’t talking about the bad and the good.

The 15 Mother-lode Questions

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It can sometimes get a bit baffling to start a conversation like ‘so’ which is why I decided to do something pretty cool with the husband on our 9 month anniversary!

I made a list of questions I wanted to ask him to get an idea as to what struck a chord with his heart in the last 9 months, I was equally keen on knowing what upset him but I chose to ask that question through a filter of positivity 🙂 !!!

So, here are some of the questions you can ask your partner (husband/wife, boyfriend/girlfriend, potential partner & friend, so on & so forth)…

1>Which incident do you feel has brought you closer (to me) this year?
2>Tell me about your favorite memory (of us) this year.
3>If you could RELIVE any day from this year (with me), which one would it be & why?
4>What’s been the best thing about being in a serious relationship/married?
5>Anything shocking/surprising you’ve learnt about me this year?
6>What’s the one quality (I showcased this year) that struck a chord with your heart?
7>Can you advice me to work on a trait this year which could enrich our relationship?
8>What have you learnt from me in the past 1 year?
9>If you could have done anything differently this year, what would it have been?
10>How have your feelings changed with regards to me in the last one year?
11>What relationship tip/advice would you give to other couples?
12>One country/city you would love to visit with me and why?
13>What kind of a parent do you think I am going to be?
14>Tell me about the day you couldn’t get your eyes off of me!
15>Let’s talk about your wildest fantasy! *wink*

Revealing a BIG SECRET!


There’s something else I wanted to share with you as well!

Perhaps some of you may not be aware that R & I met through an arranged marriage set-up which is not just awkward but stressful as well!

There’s constant pressure (+nagging) to say YES as a result of which KNOWING the other person to come to a verdict is really really important!

So, how can this ‘knowing’ come?

With time, right?

Well, kinda no!

More with communication than with time!

When we meet someone new, after a while it gets a tad bit awkward when we are ‘hunting’ or ‘thinking’ of things to talk about!

The ebb & flow of opinions & thought process will come only if the topics are legit & meaningful but WHO CAN THINK OF SUCH DEEP THINGS UNDER CONSTANT SCRUTINY?

R & I spent hours & hours Skyping to understand how we roll as individuals.

We literally went online+cooked up our own questions to ask each other to get to know one another really well!

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You can call this geeky or ‘trying too hard’ but I AM TELLING YOU, it’s so much fun! I actually fell in love with R when I heard him speak about some topics that were really close to my heart. So without further ado, here are some of those prolific questions you can ask your potential/would-be mate:

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1>How would you describe yourself? or Describe yourself in 3 words!
2>What did you do as a teen that your parents never learnt about or … found out much later :-p ?
3>Tell me about the craziest dream you have ever had.
4>What’s your fondest childhood memory?
5>When were you the most proud of yourself?
6>Tell me about your most embarrassing moment?
7>Who has been the most influential person in your life?
8>How would you like to be remembered?
9>What do you think your friends love about you the most?
10>Do you prefer to play in puddles of rain or bounce in the bellies of snow?
11>Do you kiss your friends on the cheek? Do you sleep beside them when they’re sad?
12>Do you think anger is a sincere emotion or just the timid motion of a fragile heart trying to beat away it’s pain?
13>Do you pray? Tell me about your biggest wish that has come true?
14>What’s your current go-to happy song?
15>Do you purposely listen to sad songs so that you can cry your pent up feelings out?

PS… If they’re sounding a tad bit lame now, suspend your judgement & try to do this with your loved one ( and thank me later *wink* )!

Believe me people, asking these questions will not just give you an opportunity to know the other person better but also raise the vibration of your thoughts as well as your relationships!

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Don’t forget to comment your thoughts & experiences on this miraculous activity in the comment section below!

Love & Gratitude,


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14 Comments Add yours

  1. Rajeev says:

    Can’t ever forget those late-night Skype Q&As❤️❤️❤️

    1. Aakansha says:

      Me neither!

  2. Sony Gurnani says:

    I will surely try this with your dad…..as i would love to know him more…thanking you core from my heart…

    1. Aakansha says:

      Yoohoooo!!! Do let me know how it goes!
      I love you so so so much!

  3. Shivani says:

    Surely gonna try this out.
    Will let you know soon. ♥️Xoxo

    1. Aakansha says:

      I’ll be waiting to hear about your experimentation & experience with this technique!!!

  4. Priyanka Shewakramani says:

    Thanks a lot for sharing this Anku 🤗 I’m 200% sure that this post is gonna be helpful in many ways 😉❤

    1. Aakansha says:

      Woohoo!!! I’m glad you liked this post & found it helpful! Can’t wait to hear about your experience when things are in divine order!
      Lots of love!

  5. Jayanti(juhi) Shewakramani says:

    Thanku for sharing your thoughts bhabhi…
    this will help us out ❤️

    1. Aakansha says:

      Thank you so much my darling Juhi! I feel privileged to be of service to you!!!

  6. Sathvika Narayan says:

    That’s really interesting and fun! I didn’t know that your’s is an arranged marriage. You guys are soo perfect!❤️
    Lots of love😘

    1. Aakansha says:

      So happy to read your comment Sathvika!
      Love & Gratitude,

  7. Rashida says:

    Hey, thank you for all these wonderful advice! Will surely try them out and let u know.
    Currently going through this “shaadi ke liye ladka dekho” phase and totally understand the nagging of parents 😛
    I am sure these questions will help me in much more ways!

    Thanks once again!

    1. Aakansha says:

      So happy to read your comment Rashida, wish you all the best with the boy hunt :-p , it’s quite an eventful process, enjoy it, you will laugh about it later I promise!
      Love & Gratitude,

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